Who is your target audience for this book?
Obviously, you think, women who’ve lost husbands. But it’s a little wider than that.
I wrote this book because women kept telling me, “I couldn’t make it if I lost my husband. I don’t know what I would do. I lost a parent and I got through that, but I couldn’t make it if I lost my husband.” My message: “You can make it.”
That’s the same message for those who are walking or have walked the grief road after losing someone close.
1. This book is for all the women who still have their husbands, but fear a time out in the future they won’t.
2. This book is for those who have lost a loved one—someone closely bonded, someone they spent every day with—and need to know they aren’t alone in the feelings and emotions and struggles that go with loss. Sometimes people can’t put their own feelings into words, especially in the fog of grief, but when someone else voices a feeling or uncovers another layer of loss attached to the original loss, the grieving one identifies and feels strengthened. You feel a bond with someone who has been where you have.
3. This book is for friends and family of those who have experienced loss. God love ‘em, they have no clue what it’s like. They’ve never been through intense suffering. They don’t know what “alone” is. They tend to be the ones with high expectations (like the grieving person will be over it in three months, six months). Or they are the ones who expect you to remain staid and strong spiritually (when in reality the grieving person will be clinging desperately to Bible verses or prayer or will be struggling with God—either pulling toward God or pulling away from God). They may be the ones who say the wrong things, the ones who make you feel weak and wrong in the way you handle grief. But hopefully, they are there for you in right ways and not-so-right ways, and hopefully, this book will give some examples of things the grieving one might feel or face.
Every grieving person needs to know there’s no right way to handle grief. You shoulder into it, you keep walking down that road, there is light for the way, and in your own time you find that the walk eases up and that you are living life in a new world, a new normal.